In the Taoist tradition:
Gentleness overcomes fear.
Kindness overcomes anger.
Compassion overcomes worry or anxiety.
Joy overcomes impatience.
Personal power overcomes pain.
I am realizing now that I haven't really done a good job allowing myself my feelings. It is something I still have to work at in the present. Even though people say to let go & I struggle to do this "letting go," everyone lets go in their own time and in their own way.
I am learning to allow myself all of my feelings and to stay present with those feelings particularly when I don't like them. (Which happens more frequently than I care to admit!)